Welcome back to Episode #75 of The Daily Interaction podcast. We are going to talk about how you can deal with negative people in your life, be it anyone from your spouse to your best friend and colleague at work and why if you do not deal with these negative people, their presence and influence can ruin your future.
I am just back from New Media Expo conference in Las Vegas where I had the most amazing time meeting people that I already know. When you meet people you’ve known for months or years only during your online interactions, it’s always like meeting old friends for the first time, a feeling I can’t get tired of. And I recorded a few of the interviews over at the Podcast Pavilion there. The interview with Mark Pentleton, someone I had dreamt of meeting, Episode 74 was recorded live on the fun fabulous NMX show floor and the 2 future episodes are also from that event.
Today’s topic is a request from listener May-Ling who asked: How to deal with those Debby Downer Friends.
It’s a real struggle for me because I tend to just hit the road around negative people/complainers and I end up distancing myself and sometimes the friendship withers away. I feel they’re going to contaminate my thinking when I’m working so hard to be positive and peaceful. I try to be supportive, point out the blessings they have, offer suggestions that might help but when they can’t see beyond that I kinda want to run. I get it, I’ve been there and it truly sucks but when I’ve been there (while ago) I was mainly around people who just wanted to complain also and that got old. Never coming to solutions and assuming you’re just stuck….forever, just got old. And I know some relationships are only meant for a short term. Some friendships I let go of were not helping me grow and it’s ok that those ended. I sincerely wish them the absolute best and have positive feeling towards them. I guess I just was wondering if you had any similar experiences and any wisdom you can share in this issue.
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Show Notes for 3 Surefire Ways that Negative People Ruin Your Future
1. They make you believe you are a victim of circumstance.
Truth: You are a WINNER of circumstance. You can create your own reality with your thought and beliefs.
2. They make you feel guilty about being healthy, happy, prosperous or blessed in any other way.
Truth: Nobody in the world has the permission or the right to make you feel guilty. Unless you have done them harm or stolen their goods of course but you know what I mean!
3. They make you forget that life is full of opportunity and blessing.
Truth: We have a choice for everything. Their choice may be to live in misery. Yours can be different.
What to Do About the Negative People in Your Life
First, let’s clarify: We are not talking about friends in need in times of trouble. We are not talking about turning down someone who asks for help. Absolutely positively NOT!
We are talking about people who stop by your cubicle to take up your precious morning hour and energy by talking rubbish and complaining about the state of the world and economy and their marriage. NO MORE! Put a stop to it. If you don’t, it’s your fault.
Well, it depends how badly you want a brilliant bright future. Two huge mistakes I have made: I used to have a lot of compassion for people’s sob stories – who knows, maybe it made me feel better about my own life or I just felt drawn to people who were not happy. Yes, me! Imagine that. And I did not understand the power of positive thinking and positive believing. I had no clue.
If you are vigilant about claiming your highest potential and reaching your best in life, you cannot allow these people in your mind. The only way to get them out is by eliminating them from your life. Recently I had to make a very difficult choice about a close member of my own family. It was brutal but over the years, I have noticed how much this person has affected my mind. This is not about love. Sure, you can love them but it does not entitle them to complain and fuss to you.
Cut out every negative person out of your life. PERIOD. Every minute and every hour you spend with them, you are taking away from your own brilliant potential and you are ALLOWING them to steal away your future!
Selfish? First of all, you are being self-nurturing, not selfish. Second, are they not being selfish wasting not just their potential and opportunity in life but also wasting your time. Is that not the most selfish act on earth? Don’t talk to me about selfish. You have an OBLIGATION to use your potential in life to the best and if you don’t, you have nobody to blame so make the right choices and surround yourself with the right people. There’s billions of people in the world and thanks to the INTERNET, God bless the Internet angels who timed this so well with our own lifetime, you can choose who you surround yourself with. You are not stuck to the town or city or family you are born into.
Two words on how to break away: Gently but firmly.
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