9 Reasons To Stop Getting Hurt and Disappointed with People

Mind Only Your Business and Let Them Mind Only Theirs.

There is probably someone in your life that you wish you had a better relationship with.

Someone in your family or in your circle of friends. Someone in your present life or from your past. And yet over and over, you keep getting disappointed when they don’t do something or show up someplace to support you or love you in the way that you need it.

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You keep getting “hurt” when they don’t say what you are dying to hear. You wonder to yourself, “Really, how hard can it be to say “I love you!”, “I support you!”, “I am freaking proud of you!”?

Well, apparently for this person, it’s very hard because they don’t say it!

And the cycle of hurt and disappointment, while going strong, is also getting old. You wish you could snap out of it because it weighs on you. But how?

After all, you have a right to be hurt and disappointed. You have proof that you are justified. It is obvious that as a friend or a mother or a brother, they should support you and love you so what in this world is their problem, these people in your life?

Well, the problem is not theirs, it’s ours. You and I have a problem because we impose the expectation and we weave the story.

The story of sadness. The story of disappointment. The story of what they should and shouldn’t do, or what they could and couldn’t say. It is a cycle in our mind and a crazy fabric of our own imagination. But what if we stop being our own enemy for a change?

As Byron Katie would say, what others do is their business and what you do is your business.

What about caring, you may ask?
What about it?

How do we know for a fact that they do not care about us? Maybe they have a wacky invisible way of caring but still, they care as far as caring itself is concerned. The how part is up for debate.

We want to be right so we can be justified in our disappointment. But we can’t be sure of the facts. Only God or a source of omniscience would know the true answers while we go on making up nonsense and the result? We live in a perpetually unhappy place in our minds and fill our heart with sadness instead of joy.

Enough already! I’ve been going through this cycle for months now, and it’s time to snap out of it. Are you coming with me?

Let’s do it in the name of joy, because no matter who you are and what your life situation and what crazy weird strange and loony family and friends you may have, you deserve joy my darling.

You deserve none of the sadness or the hurt or the disappointment. There is no reason for it either. Except your mind is stubborn and it won’t listen to reason so let’s give it a language to which it will respond. Are you ready? Let’s find out how to stop getting hurt in relationships once and for all.

9 Reasons To Stop Getting Hurt or Disappointed with People

1. The story you tell yourself is a lie:

It’s a lie that they don’t care about you until you know for absolute certain. It’s a lie that they even should care about you until they do. Examine the sad sob-story you tell yourself before you believe it.

2. The expectations you have are false:

You have no right to impose expectations on others. You are here to live your life not tell others how to live theirs. So stop already. Make best friends with reality and see it for what it is is to get closer to joy. If people care, and show it, great. If they care and don’t show it, not that you’ll know for certain but great. And if they don’t care and don’t show it, also great. You go on being happy, honey!

3. Your happiness or misery depends on you:

I admit, it’s a delight to blame the whole bloody world for our sadness. Not a healthy good-for-you kinda delight but a delight nonetheless. And the truth is, baby, the way to both happiness and misery is all on you. Ugly truth but a liberating one. Embrace it.

4. Your power resides in you, not them:

Stop giving your power away for the love of whatever you love. Keep it safe inside yourself. You give your power away to others by having crazy expectations. And all expectations are crazy. No wonder you are bereft of all joy. Hold on to your power.

5. You need your energy for important stuff:

Do you not realize how much this drains your energy? Stop being a hero about it. One good cry and I’m wiped for the afternoon! One crazy story in my mind and my yoga practice is ruined. Imagine what you can do with the energy that you don’t waste on being hurt and disappointed. Use it for good. Use it on your terms, not as a reaction to a false story.

6. You owe it to yourself to live in joy:

You can certainly live however you like, you have that right. But you owe it to you to live in joy. You owe it to the beautiful and wonderful person that you are to live in complete joy and harmony, and you have the means to create that very life so if you want it, you can have it. It’s a choice!

7. You will have wasted the time anyway:

When you begin to see clearly, you will either patch up with these people who ‘disappoint’ and ‘hurt’ you or you will move on from them and forget them altogether. Either way, this hurt, this disappointment is a waste of time. Stop wallowing in self-pity and use the minutes for better things.

8. You will grow old faster:

Misery and sadness shrink the heart, shut down the brain pathways, and slowly detach you from the world of reality and present time. You will move deeper and further into your story, your sadness, your self-pity in your mind and you will lose reasons to live fully and to be happy. And when you lose your reasons to live, what is left?

9. You are loved, no matter what:

It all comes down to love. We yearn to be loved. We yearn to matter in this world. We yearn to be somebody to someone. So go be somebody to someone then! Stop drowning in the misery of “She doesn’t love me!” “He doesn’t care about me!” Find love on your own terms by giving love first.

So remember, it really is none of your or my business what people say or do. It’s theirs. Let their business stay where it belongs: with them. Don’t pollute your mind with it. Mind your own business and yours alone.

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Are You Hurt or Disappointed with Anyone?

Now your turn to open up. Tell me if you are hurt or disappointed with anyone in your life and what are you doing about it? Let’s talk in the comments!