How to Talk Your Way Out of Rejection

Why Rejection Is a Myth

I want to invite you to believe in a world where rejection is a myth.

If you play along, I promise you will find a world that is better than the one where rejection rules the day. And I don’t know about you but this is more than enough incentive for me.

This is going to be simple but not easy, my dear. So if you get discouraged, and if you want to crawl back into your shell and believe the whole world is rejecting you because you are a total misfit and therefore, this blog post on rejection doesn’t apply to you, well, of course you can do that.

Or

You can think about how much of your life you have lived in fear of rejection – in fear of this myth, this lousy ugly and unreal myth – and you might just get energized to look at things in a fresh new light if only for today.

Alright then. Let’s carry on.

Rejection is a myth. It does not exist. It is a figment of your imagination and a bad one. It poisons great opportunities, and it darkens the brightest of days.

People do not reject you.

They turn down your present offer for their own reasons. They may change their mind about your second and third offers and they may change their reasons as well. Oh and their reasons are none of your business. Because your reasons for doing anything are none of theirs, so it’s only fair that the reverse is true, right?

Companies do not reject you either.

They simply prefer other offers to your present offer. They have to say no to what’s not right for them in order to be able to say yes to the right one for them and sometimes, you are in the first category and sometimes in the second.

And I sure hope you know that animals never ever reject you. They simply have a world of their own, and they behave as their nature dictates. Either they feel drawn to you or to something else. And for all I know, they still love us all but express it in their own mysterious ways.

So then, rejection does not exist be it in love, romance, partnerships, relationships, business or anywhere else in life.

Nothing ever rejects you, darling. Nothing and no one.

You and you alone build up the walls of rejection and the lonely castle of defeat and retreat to it, as the world around you carries on and sadly, it carries on with or without you.

And I have found that it is much better when the world carries on with me, so I continue to participate in it. Fully. Completely. Whole-heartedly (as opposed to half-heartedly, which is worse than opting out!)

What about you? Are you participating in your world or is rejection holding you hostage?

So next time someone turns down your offer to work with them or go out with them or marry them or spend the rest of your life with them, and everything in between, look them in the eye and say, “That’s great. Thank you for letting me know.” And move on to your next big awesome adventure.

Your Inner Worth Is Untouchable

Do not ever let the opinion of the outside world reflect any measure of your own truth and worth.

Because your truth and your worth is simply untouchable. No one in the world can alter that inner part of you with their outer expression. Well, no one except you!

Years ago, I went to the entire interview process with a little company called Google. I was ecstatic that I had made through the whole process, and the delay was apparently a good sign that I was going to get the job. I didn’t. They said no. The reactive and impulsive part of me decided to throw a pity party, and as much as I wanted the gig, I could not play along.

Google chose someone else, and my life took the exact direction it was meant to take. They did not “reject” me. They had better, more qualified candidates. Good for them! And all the better for me.

And today, if good old Google were to knock on my door with an offer of work, I’m not going to “reject” them when I say thanks but no thanks. I will simply prefer my life’s true path to any outrageous offer they put before me.

Rejection is a mythical thought, a made-up story, and a lie you tell yourself over and over.

You can argue all you want, and I get it because the kind of mind that can make up stuff like this argues hard … so I have prepared some ammunition for you, my dear, to argue back and to win this fight.

“I don’t want anyone who doesn’t want me.”
~Oprah Winfrey

How to Talk Your Way out of Rejection

All myths have a big loud mouth. You did know that, right? No different with rejection. Don’t argue with rejection. It only falters in the face of good questions and honest truth. Good, solid questions can disarm rejection. You can even whisper the question and it works. Easy, right?

Using the concepts right here, here is how you can talk your way out of rejection every single time:

Rejection says: They rejected you.

You say: They rejected me? What do you mean? There’s no such thing!

Rejection says: Don’t be a fool. Of course there is! They rejected you because you are not worthy. Or smart enough. Or pretty enough. Shall I go on?

You say: How funny! That can’t be true. Nothing can touch my inner worth and inner truth.

Rejection says: Are you nuts? They rejected you. You are worthless. And if I were you, I’d go hide in a hole and never dare show my face again.

You say: That’s alright. I don’t expect you to understand. Like it or not, I plan to stay affirmed, worthy and participate fully in the world.

And through this dialogue, you might feel funny, silly or worse, inclined to give in to rejection. It is so temping to go through the world dejected and depressed – you will have so much company.

But resist the sick temptation. You are gifted, talented, brilliant and worthy to come alive in the world. Stop hiding, stop giving into the myth of rejection and start coming out of your proverbial shell. I will keep you company and so will all the other souls who have known the truth about rejection and walked out of that lonely castle to embrace the world fully.

It’s a much better place with you and me in it.

Rejection crumbles in the face of confidence, so grab your 21-step confidence building lesson and face this myth every day with self-confidence until it takes leave of you. Set yourself free with confidence: